the 'L' word.. haha(not loser,okay..)

If love were liquid it would drown me in a placeless place refine me,
in a heart shape come around me and then melt me slowly down
if love were human it would know me in a lost space come and show me,
hold me and control me and then melt me slowly down, like chocolate..
-from Kylie Minogue's chocolate

aha..i had the thought pf writing on the 'L' word.. but don't really have the right substances to write upon, but suddenly it hit me after a while.. hehe.
So.. what's love? where is it?that's a very Keatsian question,hehe.What do we know of love?It's such an annoyance to find that people do fall, time and time again, into the confusion between a crush, love, lust, .. it's a puzzling thing,eh? Love is a myth.. as cynics would say.. i mean,people who sums love with dating finds this- you go out with a guy, he takes you back, and you say "cya around" to each other, and tell your friends that you guys are dating.uhuh, okay..
To me love is openness, honesty, it's pouring yourself to somebody else, without actually losing yourself.. love is not losing yourself.It's not a matter of calling yourselves "tommyandgina" or other mushy stuffs, nor does it mean you have to be so 'committed' to each other that it means shutting everyone else out, that there is only "me and you" in this world, haha. As if saying 'i love u' will keep u living, will put food on the table, and everything's so happy, it's a la-la land..
YET.. love is not a myth.. what keeps a family stands as a family? Keeps a friendship tight? Keeps people strong? Love doesn't need a reason.It needs your all. and the other person's all too. What ALL? ask u, well. ALL=all that u were born with, just you, minus all other trimmings.That's why crushes are mere illusionary thoughts that are more hormone-driven than emotional driven, and unsurprisingly hits us in our wee high school years. After a while, u would realize that u didn't like that person, it's more to you WANTING to like that person.And that person would be someone you won't want to get anyway: too smart, too popular, too good-looking, just plain TOO MUCH.And we all know since we realize that too much candy rots our teeth that too much of anything is still a bad thing.. why is this?
Because we are obsessed of the idea of 'perfection'..and when we get close enough we'll realize that it's not as cracked up as it seems.. and that the mere imperfections of human life is what makes everything beautiful.A birthday cake won't be as special if everyday is your birthday, a wedding won't matter if you're having it everyday.. the short time limit is what makes things blissful, and most importantly =MEANINGFUL. This is what we should search for, a meaning, not perfection, because we would never know what is perfection, because that's not what we humans need.. as the nature of a human is that we are perfectly imperfect, this makes us the best among God's creation.
So love with all that u have, believe that if you don't make it happen, it won't happen. A bell is not a bell unless someone rings it, a love is never a love unless someone receives it. If you are true enough with your feelings, it will happen the way it is meant to happen, NOT the way you imagine it to be.If it doesn't.. don't rush, nor give up or surrender.If everything good comes a-rolling in front of us, would we appreciate it? would we treasure it? would we love it? NO, so believe that God knows better,that everything happens within a reason. if you want to love and be loved by the best person you can have, are you, yet, the best that you can be, now? no.. then we should always aspire to be the best version of ourselves everyday,so that when the time comes, all is left is for the both of you to complement each others' life:to live, and love, with all that you have, never in perfection, but always happy. Because then u will finally find-the true meaning of life:as the love reflected upon your loved one is the love u have for urself, and therefore implies the love for this gift of life given by God..